Opposing spirit is a challenging spirit (sometimes in the mind) or challenging people. They enjoy pulling you down, they are spiteful and enjoy making sure that you are not heard or feel bad about something you shouldn’t. Most importantly, they are condescending and opposes almost, if not all views you may have whether good or bad and the don’t care as they want you to look bad, inferior and fearful. They are often narcissistic and cynical in nature and there is also an element of jealousy in their approach so watch out for that.
You can try and ignore or even avoid these people, but it often doesn’t work as they will find a way to be on your case. Therefore, it is best you address these opposing spirits or people in an assertive manner as the more you do so, the more stronger you become in challenging them and the less they oppose you.
So how do you deal with these type of sprit or people? Apart from prayer, there are other practical tips that are helpful. But the most useful advice I can give is that you:
Detach your emotion for a while or try to regulate it before speaking: The reason for this is because that is their main aim - to upset you in whatever way. Remember they are emotionally intelligent people and so being all emotionally upset is not going to be helpful. Be calm as possible before you address them as you may end up saying things you will regret. If you can’t get the emotion together at that moment, leave the issue and address it another time. It is best you speak to them away from others or alternatively wait for another similar incident to put them in their place.
Challenge base on facts: when you argue based on just your viewpoint, your are almost giving them more fuel to disagree with you. So, when you do have to stand up for yourself, fill the opposing spirit with facts on the matter at hand, bring other people’s viewpoint that supports yours (not philosophical ones).
Use evidence to contradict: like the last point, if you have physical evidence to prove your point, then the better. For example, whenever I argued with my cousin in the past, he always used to ask “what’s your evidence”. This really annoyed me especially when I know I am in the right. Another incident occurred over last summer at work and same question was posed to me and truthfully, because I didn’t have concrete evidence nothing was done about the issue and the people got away. Evidence can be collected in different ways and this includes other people’s testimony and written facts, videos and things the opposing person may have said in the past that contradicts their present opinion or even testifies the present issue.
Bring supportive others to it: Having other people that you know that can back up your idea can be very powerful and leave the opposing person at a weaker or disadvantaged position. But please be sure that these are people who will actually speak up for you in such situation as there is nothing worse than having a crowd that goes dumb when you are in trouble. At this point they become spectators, and this is not what you want. You don't also want flip floppers (frenemies), weak people or hypocrites. But if the table is turned the other way and the opposing person (i.e. the enemy) is the one that has the audience, try to avoid making a point that can invite other's opinions. It is best that you address the enemy one-on-one than in a crowd as you are at a more disadvantage if done is crowed or public space. But if you feel very confident, then eliminate each opposing views of the crowd one by one whilst focusing on the actual issue and the person you really want to address. One way of doing this is by calling into their conscience. Remember the crowd are simply a distracting target the enemy is using against you.
Close: Make sure you close your case in a way that doesn’t lead to more arguments. Even if the person wants to continue arguing, you will find that it becomes fruitless and they look stupid or you may look stupid if you continue. Things will become repetitive and it may lead to increase in anger which can quickly escalate to something worse. So, when you want to close the conversation or argument try not to leave any room for other suggestion or opinion.
In all these, please never leave God aside as if you are in the right, He will give you wisdom and strength to stand up for yourself. If in the wrong, He will give you wisdom and discerning spirit to acknowledge your wrong and learn to withdraw from such argument.
If you have any more advise, or want to ask any questions, please leave message in the comment box below and I will respond to you. As always, thanks for reading and may God bless and strengthen you in your weakness; may He send you help from Zion when you are in trouble; may He prepare you a table in the presence of your enemies. Amen
With love
Talkinsen - into Real Life Matters (Opposing spirits and people).
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